'Marriage Conferences are Great'. It takes alot of humility for a husband to say that. No guy naturally wants to go to one of these and hear about how he needs to be more verbal and attentive. Much less work through specific projects, questions, and Scripture that focus attention on communication, marriage, and conflict resolution. But it's necessary and good to have a tune-up. Cruise-control in a marraige is a bad, depressing thing. This past weekend we attended our second Family Life Weekend To Remember Conference. Underneath the sometimes cheesy Christian marketing is decent material and honest, hardworking people. I highly recommend them. The speakers are decent, humourous, and not into trite advice or idealism. Those who are under the care preaching Mike Easely are blessed to have such a great speaker/pastor. One weekend every two or three years is not alot to ask for something as important as your marriage. You'd give it to business or school easily, why not your marriage? Trust me, your wife will appreciate, and so will you once you let your guard down.
Good Desires, Bad Demands is probably one of the biggest, simplest concepts I came away with. You may have a good desires like wanting your house clean, or dinner made, or more time with the kids, but they can become idols and destructive when you turn desires into demands. I would like turns into I deserve and I demand. This concept spreads into many arenas in life.
Lynn and I are thankful we have parents who make our marriage so much easier because they set a good foundation for us to work with. We didn't have to figure out what a marriage should look like. That's how a Legacy is made.
Thanks big time to Gerry and Cindy who kept Gideon and Isaac, and Steve and Willa who kept the 5 McWhite kids plus their own 5 children. I think they will be drinking heavily this week in relative relaxation.
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